Hand Held Massager Benefits the Body

When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drive attachment. ~ Helen Fisher

Hand held massager benefits the body.  If you are ready for the gift that can keep on giving at every adult level of development, the Handheld Massager relieves body tension and feels good to users and sharers.  Learn more here.

What is A Handheld Massager?

A handheld massager is a device that is used to relieve pressure or tension in a muscle group or groups in order to offer pain and healing to that area.  Some also use these devices for personal pleasure or to aid in sexual play but contrary to popular belief, this is not the only use for them.  There are those who may also be under the impression that they are used for massaging the hands, while this is possible, they also work on just about any other body part.  In essence, it is what its name describes it as, a handheld device that massages the body.  If you have been considering a device such as this, then now may be the time to purchase one.

A Massager for the Hands

If you use your hands a great deal, they may become sore and tired just like any other part of the body.  In fact, it is well known that massaging the hands can actually be beneficial to the entire body as there are pressure points in the hands that can affect the back, legs, arms and other muscle masses.  Just massaging the hands can help anyone relax and get comfortable after a night’s work.  There are massagers that are made just for this or you can also use any handheld massager that you buy for any other part of the body.  One of the best on the market today is the Hitachi magic wand massager which offers many options for the best massage out there.

HandHeld Massager

A typical handheld massager is one that is held in the hand to aid a person in having a massage with the aid of another person.  In some cases another person can also use the massager to give one a massage when they are not familiar with the techniques and want an aid that will help them.  Most handheld massagers either run on batteries, are rechargeable or through an electric chord.  The battery operated are the most popular as they are completely portable and do not require an outlet in order to run.  Some prefer the convenience of not having to worry about replacing batteries and opt for either the rechargeable or electric massagers.  Just remember, unless they are made for bathing and showering, a handheld massager should never be used with water to avoid electrocution.

Benefits of a Handheld Massager

Massage keeps the hands and body warm and helps to improve the circulation in the body and can also help relieve many different types of fatigue.  Those who have arthritis can benefit greatly when a massager is used on the joints in conjunction with lotions and creams that have pain relieving properties.  The vibrations from the massager can also be soothing and relaxing for those who are just a little sore from athletics or a long workday.

For anyone who either wants a sure fire way to relax or for those who have arthritis or other issues, consider a handheld massager to help you relax and ease away the tension of the day or the pain of using your hands too much.

Author Bio – Bradon Brady has been blogging about the benefits of handheld massagers for nearly six years and enjoys helping people learn how to use them.

Why Many Couples Over 50 Have Given Up Sex. They Cannot Afford It!

Dr. Lauren Streicher's article on Everyday Health

Barriers to Entry:

The Economics of Midlife Sex

When couples in midlife experience vaginal dryness, painful intercourse, and erectile dysfunction; having sex twice a week can cost more than $6,000.00 a year not including the cost of a little new lingerie, candles, a vibrator and maybe the occasional bottle of champagne.

• Silicone Lubricant  $15.99 (roughly 4 bottles/year) $64
• Local Vaginal Estrogen $40-80/month $720
• Long Acting Vaginal Moisturizer $19 /month $240
• Erectile Dysfunction Medication $35/pill $3,360
• Doctor’s visits to get prescriptions $300
• Total: $6,202/year

Click here to read the complete article. 

How to Keep Your Traditional Wedding Vows While Being Prepared for Potential Legal Issues in the Future

Taking the Vows

Traditional wedding vows are declarations of wives and husbands to each other to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.  It is the “until death do us part” that holds the potential to legal challenge. 

What happens during the passing decades when one or the other experiences diminished capacity from injury or medical condition?  Some couples discover much too late after one or the other has become incapacitated, decisions requiring joint legal action cannot take place.

A couple owns property they have shared more than 20 - 30 years.  One develops Alzheimer Disease and can no longer legally act in their best interests because of diminished capacity.

Dependent on the State of Residence, this can become complicated at a time when access to resources and proceeds from disposition of holdings is important.  This can generate burden at a time already challenging enough.

David Weed in his column, Your Home and the Law directs couples to have in place, “durable financial powers of attorney”.  This will allow the well spouse to act in the interests of the family by signing important documents.

For more information, consult David by email or send Questions by email  or visit blogs. 

When on a Budget Here is How to Negotiate Reduced Prices for Food

Grocery shopping on a budget encourages families to negotiate for reduced food prices.  Food prices like gas prices go up and seldom come down.  Shopping for discounts before shopping makes sense and saves dollars and cents.

Contemporary Cost and Savings Opportunity

USA Today reported May 1, 2013, “The latest numbers for a four-member family: a thrifty food plan, $146 a week; a low-cost food plan, $191 a week; a moderate-cost plan, $239; a liberal plan, $289 a week.” 

20 families spending $146 per week for food cost total $2,920 a week.  20 families spending $289 per week for food cost total $5,780 a week. 

Families negotiating for a 10% reduced cost on $2,920 would be $292.  Each of 20 families equal savings share is $14.50. 

Families negotiating for a 10% reduced cost on $5,780 would be $578.  Each of 20 families equal savings share is $28.90.

Information is Your Bargaining Chip

1.       Identify friends and friends of friends who grocery shops on a budget.

2.       Ask who wants to save money on the food purchases for their families.

3.       Make a list of all who express interest.

4.       Meet them, one on one or in groups of threes.

5.       Gather and organize information.  Detail verifiable dollars spent for food over 90 days.

6.       Gather information from a minimum of 25 family shoppers.

7.       Establish total dollars spent on food and divide by 25.  This information is your bargaining chip.  For this model, the total represents $146 spent per week for 25 families over three months or $43,800.  10% savings is $4,380 over 90 days.

8.       This is business.  Formalize your agreement with each other to pursue reduced food prices.

9.       Establish negotiation teams of 2 – 3 shoppers to engage independent or chain groceries.

Negotiate a Deal and Provide Call to Action

Shoppers with information have power.  When you make contact with chain store or regional managers, make clear you represent the interest of more than $40,000 quarterly food dollars. 

1.       Express clearly you are negotiating a deal for highest discount pricing among area groceries and food sellers.  Does $40,000 quarterly business interest?

2.       Be ready with a list of favorable things you appreciate about the grocery.  Your list might include existing reduced costs, special sales events, or special day discounts.

3.       Indicate the concessions you are willing to make for 10% additional cost reduction.  Your list might include shopping during off peak traffic hours, after midnight, beginning weekdays, or particular days.

4.       Identify additional benefits to the grocer. You will provide your list of shoppers for their activity tracking.  You might include you will word of mouth market or grow your group to increase business in following quarters.  You might indicate you are willing to receive your discount when purchases made or at the end of the quarter by cash rebate.  Goal is to provide attractive options.

5.       Your call to action makes clear you want a response to your proposal in 7 – 10 business days or less.  You will be taking the first satisfactory deal in the best interest of your group as soon as possible.

Economic power develops when grocery shopping on a budget encourages families to negotiate for reduced food prices.  This strategy is not limited to grocery shopping.

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July 4th - America and Americans Clyde and Betty Crawford Celebrate Independence Day

Clyde and Betty Crawford Cut the Cake

America declared independence as a free and self – determining republic from Great Brain on July 4, 1776. America celebrates Independence Day for 237 years this July 4, 2013.

Clyde Harrison Crawford, Jr. of Fountain Run, Kentucky and Betty Jane Underwood from Scottsville declared independence as a free and self – determining family from the families of their birth on July 4, 1951. Clyde and Betty Crawford of Gamaliel, Kentucky celebrate 62 years of their own Independence Day this July 4, 2013.

Clyde and Betty Crawford are my parents. I am their first-born 61-year-old son. My parents live. We live from Kentucky to Arizona from each other. This is a glimpse.

Betty Jane Underwood

My mother was born bi-racial when the condition had other than politically correct notion. She was born to a single mom, Gwynola Underwood, who lived with her parents, Hubert and Hallie Underwood also known as Papa Hubert and Mama Hallie.

My mother’s father was not talked about when I was a child but I always wanted to know who the white man was who came to Granny Gwen’s house every Saturday when we would visit. He knocked. My grandmother would open the door to him. He would always hand to her a brown paper sack and be on his way.

I would not know who he was until one day mom was reading the paper when she just began to weep. Dad consoled her and we went to the farm to work. On the way, Dad told my brother and I that mom had read that her father had just died.

Her father had not been a father to her. He had been the white man who owned the farm my mother’s family sharecropped. He was the same man at the door every Saturday of my grandmother’s house who never spoke to my mother, only to my grandmother. Mom grieved this loss and I felt only anger.

Clyde Harrison Crawford, Jr.

My father was born to schoolteachers, Clyde Harrison Crawford, Sr. and Maude Estil Crawford. Both had been teacher educated at Kentucky State College in the 1930’s and 1940’s.

My grandmother has been born a Lee of Northern Kentucky in the hamlet of Bethel. My grandfather’s origin was the same as my mother. Nobody really knew he was a colored man until he showed up with my brown grandmother and their children.

My grandmother taught grades 1 – 4 in the two-room colored school of Tompkinsville, Kentucky. My grandfather taught grades 5 – 8 in the two-room colored school of Scottsville, Kentucky. My mother was his student.

My father was born with cataracts. An experimenting doctor destroyed one of his eyes. He told my grandparents he believed he would get it right on the second. They thanked and told him no. My father has been legally blind all of his life.

My father would be the Valedictorian of his class at the Lincoln Institute in 1948. He would return home to work the family farm. My grandfather owned hundreds of acres of his own land and houses.

Clyde and Betty Crawford

My parents have always been hard working. They raised my brother and sisters in paradise. On the land we lived, we grew everything we ate. It was there in the forest trees, the waters of the, or on the hoof.

We worked hard growing tobacco, corn, and cane. We grew enough garden to feed many families.

My mother worked the fields as hard as any man. When the agricultural life was not enough by itself, my parents both got jobs beyond the farm. My father was also a pastor like my grandfather.

My parents have produced 5 children (2 sons 3 daughters) with four undergraduate degrees, four graduate degrees, a pastor, three teachers, and a nurse. Their down line includes 12 grandchildren and 11 great grandchildren.

July 4th, 1776 and 1951

When Independence Day is celebrated July 4th across America, our family celebrates independence twice. We celebrate and honor the red, white, and blue. Yes, we do.

We also celebrate the day two became one. We celebrate and honor our patriarch and matriarch, Clyde and Betty Crawford. This is their 62 Anniversary. God Bless America and this day of Crawford Celebration.

3 Simple Steps How to Meet Other Couples Over 50 Married More than 20 Years

Easter at the Phoenician

Making new friends and building new relationships with couples over 50 married more than 20 years requires three simple steps.  Those of us who are over 50 and married more than 20 years are social creatures.  We want to meet new people, learn new things, and go places we have never been before.

Meeting New People Over 50 Married More than 20 Years

Libraries, bookstores, coffee shops, theaters and university lectures are among the many places our contemporaries go to hang out and socialize.  Our peers love Starbucks and other new wave coffee gathering places because all age groups are there talking and sharing ideas.

Libraries with cafes are places we go to read newspapers and magazines.  We are there to be around people.  We love people.  We need people.  We go to sporting events, university lectures and bookstores for the opportunity to be around people we have never met before.  We have been around a bit and have the same to share with sharing others.

Learning New Things

We are excited to learn new things if it excites us.  We learn to speak new languages.  We learn how to pan for gold, make movies, write books, and cook.  We enjoy being creative with painting sculpture and music.  All this works for us because we have the time and the discipline necessary for effective learning.

Bonnie and I have friends over 50 and married more than 20 Years that go skydiving, learn ballroom dancing and start new businesses.  Many of us get together to share with each other the new things we are doing.  We are also excited to explore spiritual boundaries fixed most of our lives.  We appreciate freedom.

Going Places We Have Never Been Before

Contemporaries over 50 married more than 20 Years enjoy the idea of traveling even if it is just across town and to each other’s homes on a regular basis.  Going to spend a night or a weekend in a bed and breakfast is a first for some.  Going to a professional sporting event is a first for some.  Going to a class after years away from school can be a first for some.

Whether the place you want to go is some place in your neighborhood, across the country or across the world; others want to share these experiences too.  Cruises are popular.  Taking the train across the U.S., Canada and Europe are exciting ventures.

Being over 50 and married more than 20 Years is not a sentence of social restraint.  It is a new venture in freedom to be and do whatever you want to be and do. 

Get out of your comfort zone.  Meet some new people.  Make some new friends.  Build some new relationships.  Learn something new.  Go somewhere you never been to do something you have never done.  

You have one life.  Make it meaningful.  Our time is now.

4 Best Practices for Couples over 50 and Married 20 Years to Manage Money, Family, Health and the Future

Oscar and Bonnie Crawford

Couples over 50 married more than 20 years think about money, family, health, and the future.  Aging prompts urgency in an era of uncertainty.  Couples who have sown together and grown together are not immune.  Human life has no guarantees at any age or stage.  We do the best with what we have to work with and hope for the best.  Here are some things we can do.

An important thing couples can do at any time is affirm each other.  Let each other know the security of continued commitment to each other.  Affirm to each other what your love accomplished.  Affirm your excitement and enthusiasm to continue sharing love and life.  Feel the full impact of your feelings for each other.

Money

Many couples have not managed well together because they could not manage having enough or not having enough money.  Many couples harbor a secret fear of being only one catastrophe away from financial ruin.

Identify your individual and shared fears.  Ask the tough questions.  What happens should you lose everything?  How would you manage life - threatening illness?  How would you survive the other’s death?  One of you will likely survive the other.  Money matters.  Design a plan you can agree on.

Family

You adore your grandchildren.  You do not want to raise them.  Some children assume their near retirement parents are their built in child care. 

Make sure you negotiate an understanding here or your grandchildren can be used to manipulate you into feeling guilty.  Do not let it happen.  You have raised your children.  Your job is to spoil your grandchildren occasionally.  It is not your job to raise your children’s children to make life convenient for them.  You paid your dues.  Now they pay theirs.  Their children are theirs.

Health

Good health is not a constitutional privilege.  Good health is the new sexy and most of us want to feel that as we mature.  Couples over 50 and married more than 20 years must work very hard to live in and maintain good health.

 

One or both of you may develop chronic conditions over time.  That is life in the fast lane.  There is no avoiding it. 

We do not have to surrender.  We can continue to have medical observation, annual evaluation and personal plans to stay strong for as long as possible.

The Future

Futures unplanned for arrive too soon.  Futures well planned come with no guarantees.  The future comes with every breath.  Work on ways to enjoy it, together.

If possible, do some of the things you never had time to do.  Visit another country.  Take music or art lessons.  Write a book.  Make a movie.  Do whatever you want that is manageable for you and makes you feel good about your individual and couple self.

Keep up the love.  Keep on living.  What you still sow together, you still grow together.